Trust is a Heart Issue.
Trust and cynicism are opposite emotions. At least, for me they are. When I hear a claim, I tend to immediately distrust it. When did cynicism become my default mode? What happened to the childlike trust that I started with?
According to the dictionary, a cynic is a person who believes that only selfishness motivates human actions and who disbelieves in or minimizes selfless acts or disinterested points of view. When did I adopt that way of thinking? Was is taught to me by life? What about the sacrifices made by the firefighters who charge into a burning building? How does one develop trust?
How do we go about reprogramming our mind to allow trust to flourish? One step at a time. First we have to learn to trust ourselves. Then we can trust others in little things. Then we can trust others in the bigger things.
So, then here are the steps:
- Promise yourself something simple.
- Do it.
- Compliment someone on something.
- Ask someone to do something simple for you.
- If they do it, add that to a list of promises kept.
- If they don't, forget it. Refuse to dwell on it. Let it go.
- Become aware of things for which you can be grateful. Start small. Add those to you list from step 5.
- Do something kind for someone.
- Notice when someone is kind to you. Add that to your list.
You are training your brain to see and pay attention to kindness and gratitude. This will help you develop trust in the Universe. Keep at the exercise until you own the process.